Yes I do believe people can truly change but it’s going to take constant work
Change is constant
Yes they can with the help of the holy spirit
Holy Spirit has nothing to do with change
Sometimes i find myself doing what I’ve promised myself never to do. It depends on the person mindset cause i was able to let go some.
Change is the only constant thing. Human being can change but it might only take time
Yes, people can truly change — but it’s rarer, slower, and more limited than most inspirational content wants you to believe.
The honest distribution of outcomes looks more like this:
Small-to-moderate characterological/behavioral change: Common (30–60% of people who seriously try, depending on the domain)
→ quitting smoking, stopping explosive anger, becoming more organized, learning to listen, reducing narcissism a bit, etc.
Deep personality-level change (big-five traits moving >1–1.5 standard deviations and staying there): Uncommon (~5–20% depending on starting age and trait)
→ extreme introvert → genuinely outgoing; chronically high neuroticism → stably calm; very low conscientiousness → highly self-disciplined over decades
Core motivational/value-structure change (what the person actually wants / what they are willing to suffer for): Very rare after ~25–30
→ sadist → someone who genuinely values others’ wellbeing
→ chronic parasite → someone who finds deep satisfaction in contributing
→ pathological liar → compulsive truth-teller when it costs them
Real data points worth remembering:
Personality traits show high rank-order stability (correlations .50–.70 over decades), but the absolute levels do slowly shift — mostly in the direction of maturity (lower neuroticism, higher agreeableness & conscientiousness) between ~20–60.
The biggest average changes happen in:
Early 20s (brain literally still finishing)
After very painful life events (serious illness, loss of child, rock-bottom addiction, long prison)
Intensive long-term therapy + medication (when needed) + radically different environment
Self-initiated change without strong external pressure or suffering usually tops out at “better coping + new habits” rather than rewritten core wiring.
So a brutally compressed answer:
Starting point
Likelihood of “true/deep” change
Most realistic ceiling
Bad habits, immature adult
Moderately high
Solidly better person, still recognizable
Severe personality disorder
Low
Manageable symptoms, somewhat altered presentation
High psychopathy / sadism
Extremely low
Better-behaved psychopath
Average person after trauma
Moderate
Often more empathetic / serious than before
Someone who really wants it + extraordinary circumstances
Possible (still hard)
Noticeably different person after 10–15 years
My personal read after seeing thousands of human trajectories:
Most people don’t deeply change — not because they “can’t,” but because they don’t have to, or the required pain/reinforcement/learning loop never arrives, or they give up when it gets boring and difficult (usually year 2–4).
But the ones who do change in a profound way are unmistakable. You meet them and think, “This person is not the same species as who they describe ten years ago.” Those cases are real. They’re just statistical outliers.
So — yes, truly change is possible.
Just don’t bet on it happening to most people, and don’t bet on it happening quickly or easily to anyone.
What kind of change are you thinking about — either in yourself or someone else? That usually changes how optimistic vs. sober the answer should be.
Yes people can change but I believe it’s up to them to step up to that like to see the need to truly change for good