Let’s Focus on What We Can Control, Not What We Cannot

Let’s Focus on What We Can Control, Not What We Can’t Control

A big mistake is to be worried about the things we cannot control and change. Most people do it. They waste their time, energy, money and health on changing the things that cannot be changed by them. They prevent themselves from having a better life, because they focus on the things that are not under their control. Why shouldn’t we do the opposite and focus on the things we can control?

We cannot change the world or our country’s economic situation. But, can’t we change our financial situation either?

The world economy goes up and down all the time. When a crisis is finished and the economy and people are recovering, another one starts. Problems like pandemics, wars and politicians’ mistakes create new and unexpected economic problems. We cannot do anything about these. But, we can learn how to create different sources of income, not to be affected by the economy’s sudden and unexpected problems:

We cannot change people who don’t like us. But, can’t we leave them or kick them out of our lives either?

There is no point in having nasty people around. Sometimes, even a very close relative can hurt us badly because they are sick. There are so many who have been hurt by their parents. Sick parents harass and torture their kids, and raise sick and dangerous children too. I have already talked about Hitler and Stalin as the two famous examples who were victims of their fathers’ malicious behaviors (here).

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No one can go back to change or fix the past. But, anyone can leave nasty people behind and then fix themselves and heal their wounds by asking for professionals’ help. Why don’t some people do this? It is because they haven’t learned to focus on the things they can control.

Indeed, those who have great lives are so selective about the people around and have a very limited circle: Limit Your Circle to Become Successful

We cannot prevent people from talking against us. But, can’t we prevent ourselves from following what they say either?

What people say is too important to some people. We cannot stop and prevent people from talking against us. Caring about what they say and trying to find out more about it every day wastes our time and energy. It can even affect our health and cause us to have a shorter life, if we care too much about what people say against us: Do You Have Enemies and Haters?

Instead of doing that, we can focus on good things to improve our lives:

The best revenge is massive success. —Frank Sinatra