Should you apologize when you’re RIGHT?

It depends on the situation and the manner in which you express your apology for being right.

Many people I know love to rub in good the fact that they’re right, but be the first to say, “If you’re right, please don’t go rubbing it all in my face!”

HUH???! 🤔 😒

Anyhow, I grew quickly at a very tender age with feeling guilty by expressing the whole “I told you so” phrase. I’d notice how it made the other person feel when they were wrong. They didn’t feel good at all of course. Yet instead, they felt more so ashamed, embarrassed, and/or disappointed. I know because those were the feelings that came over me the few times I was wrong, even when I was wrong at the moment, but then later it being revealed that I was actually right.

The only times I will say, “See, I told you so…” is when it’s a situation that proves absolutely rewarding to the individual, they get something really good out of an ordeal, or they benefit in great abundance, and they’re left filled with joy and a smile on their face or them smiling within, making them overall happy that I was right in their favor for their benefit. I absolutely adore those moments! 🥰 

All other times, I’ll secretly tell myself something like, “I knew it!” or “Yep, I thought so…” or, which is most times, have a mini discussion within myself, sort of reevaluating the reasons why it couldn’t have been this or that or whatnot.

I don’t like to gloat, brag, or boast, mainly because I hold on to the fact that I still could be wrong, even when I’m 99.9% sure that I’m right. (That 00.1% can prove to be the biggest and greatest at times, especially unexpectedly!) I also don’t like when others tend to react in those same manners, even for those times that I didn’t get a similar response on an equal respect level in return.

A long time ago, before lesson was learned, after dealing with a person with repetitive bragging, a good couple of times, I finally broke down and got in “I told you so!”

However, since then, after consistent boasting (for whenever it does occur) and I’m quite fed up, I find out that what works 99.9% of the time is when I simply remind the other person,

“I don’t act and treat you in the manner that you treat me. You treat people how you want to be treated, otherwise except the manner in which you lay your expressions onto others. It’s only fair!”