Had tons of breakups here and there but the ONE that hurt the most was a guy I was dating and we got serious so I thought… he had another girl on the side with the same name, he denied it for a while, and was a super narcissistic traits that I would have seen a lot sooner. Every time he made an excuse not to come around or if he didn’t answer his phone; my gut told me and sure enough did some digging on Facebook and that’s when I found out his secret life. I was heartbroken and it messed me up for a very long time.
I avoid church due to reasons like that.Those parishioners are like robots you tell what to do.
Sorry to hear that Jenny. I’m glad you found out about him though, better to be hurt and know the truth than to be cheated on and never be someone’s number 1 and not even know it. As for the church that’s not how religious people should act, I don’t know any real god that would turn away or out his people so I think it’s a blessing you got out because sometimes when you’re in something you can’t see stuff until you step out and back. You’re still here to tell the tale and fighting the good fight so good for you! Thank you for sharing
Yes Myriam, it’s really sad it comes down to that. I answer to God not man. Thankfully, I have found a good church home and a great bonus family, and I am forever grateful.
Absolutely Nattela, now looking back and my reality now, I have dated some doozies… all of them taught me a lesson, taught me what I wanted in a man, and how to set my standards. I thank God everyday for my husband, just wish I found him sooner than I did. Yes, I also agree with you 100% that when you step back from any situation, people’s true colors show with any type of relationship; I saw this both with my personal relationships and the situation with the “church.” I have freed away from the hurt and the bitterness. The devil did not win this war.
The church I grew up in turned their back on my sisters and I after my parents went through infidelity… found out the pastor stood at the pulpit and told the congregation not to call, text, or have any contact with us…. Thankfully some friends did not agree/abide by the rules set forth. That was a horrible hurt and I have dealt with the bitterness I have endured. I now see that is nothing but a cult, and have nothing to do with them to this day.