For me, it is the gift of knowledge of many different things. As a kid, I used to sit and listen to the adults more than playing with my friends. I learned to fix mowers at the age of 14 in 1987. Help my dad with cars. learning how to fix different things like tvs computers, along with the cars and mowers. I was told by my aunt that I would never amount to anything back then. I never forgave her and dont like her to this day. But gift of knowledge my main answer.
Good to know you have a strong mind, but something sticks out to me that you said about your aunt. I know the statement she made had to have hurt you because she is family and what she did was wrong, but you must find it in your heart somehow to forgive her not for her but for you. Those are bitter memories that you have for her. Bad memories can make you bitter too if you hang on to them. I know you will always remember but forgiveness is a must for you to grow and be a much better person inside and out. I hope you don’t take what I have said wrong. Just a few words of wisdom I wanted to give to you and thank you for sharing Darryl