I dont agree hun. Because I’ve become the problem from the environment and treatments/traumatising events that were bestowed upon me. I might be a problem for you but that’s because I was spoiled or neglected by my parents (for example). I was a single child in a 1 parent family, my mum worked evenings, after school I playes with friends over the park, all of a sudden I was selling drugs, fighting people who disrespected me. All of a sudden a good woman gave birth to my child and said I was a bad partner, I never saw my baby, because I don’t like being disrespected. (For example). I have been programmed to be who I am.
It takes a village to raise a child.
P.S. None of the above relates to me – I’m perfect* and bring the sunshine. Ive been truly blessed with my upbringing… oh wait, my nieve hardworking parenta did everything for me, I didn’t realise I would have to work hard for a living. Am I poor because I’m lazy or because I didn’t realise how hard my parents worked for me?
People determine which path they are going to take through life by the decisions they make. Now your parents could very well play a part in your decision making simple because of the way that they raised you, but ultimately. Can’t blame them totally because we have the last word. It is up to the individual person as to what you choose to do whether it be good, bad or indifferent. So yeah, we can possibly be the source of our own problems. Just depends on what you chose to do.