Through my journey in life, I was one to always helped the needs of others before me. When I kept doing that, I saw myself falling more behind in what I was supposed to accomplish. However, through research and studying, I found that I am the most important person, and if I cannot work on my needs and satisfy my needs, then I cannot accomplish my goals due to diverting my attention to the needs of others. What are your thoughts?
Probably it is more important, but I generally take care of everyone else before myself. I reach burnout stage and just keep going. This doesn’t help my anxiety levels at all, but it’s just how I have been my entire life.
Oh, I understand that you should put yourself first, don’t get me wrong. I’ve just never been able to do it. I’m too much of a bleeding heart, people pleaser, and it results in burnout and severe anxiety issues. I will one day come first, but I grew up in a family that saw the value in helping others even when we were struggling. So its been engrained in me that I come second, I guess . Even after being homeless for 9 years and pulling myself out of the gutter with no help from anyone but myself, I have always helped others before myself. I can go without a meal, but I don’t know how many meals that other person has missed, or I can sleep on a hardwood floor if someone who needs a bed for comfort needs it more than I. True, it may be the wrong way of going about things, but maybe one day someone can teach this old dog new tricks.
Hi Dawn. Thank you for your feedback. Have you read the other answers to this question? I believe that they would help. I have learned the hard way that taking care of self must come first. Please read some of the other answers and I believe that they May give you other perspectives.