Hmmmm this is a good question! I am a community nurse so see a lot of elderly in their own homes and also in care homes.
Now I would like to stay in my own home for as long as I can! However, if it were for my best interest to go in a care home, and also take the pressure of my family members then I would respect their decision to put me in a care home ~ for example, if I had like advanced dementia, or a falls risk and unsafe at home. Because yes you can have carers to come in max 4 times a day unless you are wealthy and can have live-in carers. But there are many hours of the day where my patients are left on their own and they really are unsafe and need to be in a care home with 24 hr care! But I do agree with some of these comments, a lot of care home need to improve! They need more caring staff, better equipment, better paid so the staff actually want to do a good job! I do see some really good care homes but also concerning care homes that I would not put my nanna in!

Thank you so much for giving us an inside view of a nursing home. You make some very valid points and thank you for sharing and for your participation!