9/10 times I do get defensive when I am being accused of something I did not do. I overreact, Walls comes up and I shutdown. I will leave the conversation, and refuse to talk until I process everything and then I will hash it out.
You sound a bit like me Jenni! Lol
Keep working on it!
I will also mention that I do not handle confrontation well and try my best to tread lightly.